Hope you enjoy this short video of me explaining how to Manifest and Maintain Great Sex!! This came from my belief that you should always love yourself first and that the same principles you use to manifest your other dreams can apply to having great sex. If you are easily offended or under the age of 18, then please don’t watch. Otherwise, watch, ENJOY and share. And I’d love your comments!!

And so it begins.  This journey of the heart.  This journey to a place never before ventured.  This place of unconditional self-love.  Let me take you there.

Here, there are no boundaries between you and yourself.  Here is a place where you do not doubt, you do not fear.  There is only hope and peace.

Feel that?  It is the energy in this place.  It surrounds you with gentleness and yet with excitement that you have finally arrived.  It embraces you as a long-lost lover would, with the grip, the knowingness of never letting you go again.  You will never be lost again.  Everything looks brighter here.  The colors are more vibrant.  Indeed, there are colors you’ve never even seen before as the lenses of doubt that you have been wearing have been removed, allowing you to now see these vibrant colors that bring new meaning to your world.  The grass under your feet is softer than you have known before, as if it were the luxury pillow of Mother Earth.  The smells are sweeter, tickling your nose and your memories.  Perhaps you have been here before after all.  But you can’t quite remember when that might have been.  All you know is you never want to leave again.  The sun is warm on your skin and although it seems brighter, you are not squinting.  Every ray that touches you nourishes you, providing light to every cell of your being.

Here in this place you never feel twinges of being alone or lonely, for you know that you have yourself first and shall never be truly alone again.  But as you look around, you see other people such as yourself who are thriving in this unconditional love experience.  They wave and you know they too are comfortable with themselves and therefore you can enjoy this experience together.  Yet you do not require them to be there or vice versa.  You are nourished from the inside and not from the outside.

You look at and tune into your physical body and discover it is in a balanced state of health.  You have achieved a state of health that allows you to anticipate and/or acknowledge problems that arise before they become damaging to this vessel you call home.

Your spiritual connection has no beginning and no end.  There is no division between you and The Creator.  You are He and She is You.  And this applies to everyone and everything on Earth. You are they and they are you.  You know that this means that you can create the life of your dreams simply by aligning yourself with those dreams.  And there is no limit to those dreams as alignment allows for infinity and eternity.

You feel a warmth rising from your loins, rushing through your body through the heart and out the crown of your head.  You know your body is ecstatic that you have discovered your true sexual self, the one that sees the beauty and eroticism in the human body.  The self that explores your partner, finding pleasure in every curve, in the scent they exude, in the sounds they make under your touch.  The self that merges with your partner, bringing together the energies of you both to create a new energy, unlike any other you have experienced.  This energy supercedes anything you can experience alone.  Only the merging of the two of you can create this otherworldly energy that raises you up, taking you into the stars where you travel together, floating and twisting and soaring.  Soaring into eternity, passing through time and space and other dimensions in the blink of an eye, and yet it seems to take lifetimes to pass.  And finally you return, landing gently back in this dimension having altered your individual energies in such a way that each will be forever modified.  You will carry a bit of the other’s energy, as well as the new energy created together, with you always.

You now walk with a confidence that again stirs your memory banks.  When have you felt that confidence before?  That confidence that says you have no worries about the past, for it is the past. You have no worries about the future because you are creating it yourself.  Therefore, you are loving the life you are living this very moment, for you have created it as well.  You have created this place of unconditional love for yourself.  Now, you can thrive.  Now you are in complete control of your destiny.  And the world, The Universe, will be transformed as a result.

Have you been to and are still in this place?  Want to go?  Please share your thoughts and insight.

What a journey I have been on these last few years.  I remember sitting in a Tarot and Psychic Development class wondering what the hell I was doing there and was God going to strike me down as soon as I walked out the door?  That was the beginning of my listening to my intuition even though I had no idea why.  And now, my fear is gone and I listen to my intuition every single day, every moment and I trust it.  Just a few years after that first class I’m an internationally-known intuitive, energy healer, coach and teacher.  I am living my life purpose with enthusiasm and gratitude.

For many, many years of my life, I felt alone.  I felt as if I lived on the periphery of life and that I was just a side-note for the people in my life to deal with.  The only time as a child I didn’t feel that way that I recall was after my parents divorced and they were no longer so focused on avoiding each other that they actually focused on me.  That all ended when my dad died in a tragic accident when I was 9.  For the remaining of my childhood and much of my early adult life, I always felt alone and yet, had a strong fear of abandonment.  Made for some interesting romantic and sexual relationships let me tell you. 

When I began to study metaphysics (I didn’t even know what that word was when I joined the Tarot class), I attacked it just like I did everything else in my life, with gusto.  But unlike so many other things I had tried and got bored with, I didn’t get bored with this.  I read book after book, peppered my new friends and teacher/mentor with questions, practiced and finally was told by that same mentor to “Just Own It.”  And so I began to.  I offered a few free readings to friends and hung out my online “shingle” and wondered if anyone would guess that I didn’t know what the heck I was doing.  But the funny thing was….people told me I was accurate.  I was “dead on.”  And my confidence grew.  And people began to ask ME how to develop their intuition.  And since I had always taken pride in my training ability when I worked in the government and non-profit sectors, I put that skill to use in training others to develop their intuition.

But the most amazing transformation has come within me.  I remember being an angry, critical, negative person and my fear of abandonment was so strong I might as well have been carrying a sign that said, “Don’t Get Involved With Me As I Will Either Push You Away or Become So Clingy You Will Run Away as Fast As You Can.”  The first thing I did was learn to forgive, both myself and others.  And somewhere along the way, I picked up person after person in my life that loved me for who I am, not who they wanted me to be.  I realized that that was happening because I was valuing myself for who I am and wasn’t worried about what other people thought about me.  I loved myself for who I was.  Also in the last few years, despite great external pressure on several occasions and my own fear of the unknown, I always followed my intuition.  I listened to what The Universe was telling me to do and every time I did it, I was rewarded.  These days, I am rewarded virtually every single day.  I wake up every single day asking, “OK, can You (The Divine/Universe) do better today than you did yesterday?”  And every day it gets better and better.  I’ve got a magic life and that gives me chills just writing it.  It truly is magical.  How many people get to say that?

And now?  I’m once again following the lead of The Universe and embarking on a whole new path of my journey.  I’ve rediscovered my own sensuality and realized how much I had missed that part of me.  It used to be such a big part of who I was and I lost touch with it.  Now that I am loving myself so fully, it has returned and I am being guided to teach other people about connecting with their sensuality and sexuality.  I’m not sure sure where it’s going to take me, but I don’t have to know because I just believe that it’s what I’m supposed to be doing.  I know that being comfortable with your sensuality and sexuality has amazing rewards in every part of your life, just like developing your intuition does.  And plus, it’s great fun!!

I’d love your thoughts and insight on anything you’ve read here.  I did ramble a bit and I’m not sure everything here is tied together but it’s what I was led to write and therefore, it’s what I wrote. 

What signs and symbols are important to look for in your dreams?  Do you have to be an expert to interpret your own dreams? What does X mean?

Dreams are a very personal experience.  Therefore interpreting dreams can be challenging but I have some tips to help you to interpret yours.

• Keep a dream journal and keep it on your nightstand.  If you wake up in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning, reach over and jot down what you remember of your dreams.  If you wait until morning or after you’ve been awake for even a few minutes, they will have faded away and you will have to wait until the next night.  Keeping a journal will help you to see any patterns that become evident.  In addition, the information may be enlightening in the future when you look back to see what was happening in your life at that time.
• Learn to pay attention to even the smallest detail in your dreams.  Even the most seemingly inconsequential item, person, etc. may have meaning.
• The colors in your dreams can be significant.  Each color has a different meaning.  For instance, black is symbolic of feminine power as well as protection.  Blue implies trust or it can be related to communication.
• If you see any animals in your dreams, note these.  Animals in the form of totems bring us messages in our dreams as well as in our waking life.  I prefer the books Animal Speak  and Animal Wise by Ted Andrews to interpret any animals that I see in dreams or while awake.
• Numbers are significant.  Not only seeing the number itself, but also counting the number of what you see.  I won’t get into an explanation of numerology here but a quick Google search on the significance of the number that is showing up for you should be fruitful.
• Symbols themselves such as stars, the moon, shapes, etc. and even wind, water, and others are symbols that have meaning.
• Dreams can be messages, predictions, concerns, as well as “school” if you will for your Higher Self.  What I mean by this is that you may be getting messages about your life, you may see a prediction of something that is to come, you may simply be living out the emotions and worries you are dealing with in waking life or possibly your guides, the Divine, etc. are downloading you with spiritual guidance for your human self.

Sorting all this out is the fun part of dream interpretation.  Yes, there are dream “dictionaries” and books out there, but dreams are so subjective that I find they are not always that accurate.  Tracking your dreams, beginning to study the symbolism that is there in colors, animals, symbols, shapes as well as studying the subjective message will all get you on the road to interpreting your own dreams.

I’d love to hear about your most memorable dream and how you interpreted it.

Have you experienced your psychic abilities but they scare you? Perhaps you’ve had a premonition or dream that came true and you felt guilty that you weren’t able to do anything about it or didn’t know what to do about it? Maybe you’ve seen spirits or heard animals talk to you and it brought fear. Instead of investigating further, you just shut it down. Maybe your parents or friends made fun of you and you doubted yourself. So, you shut it all down. Or maybe your child is experiencing some of these things and you don’t know how to help them.

I hear this ALL the time from my coaching clients and in my readings and energy healings. “I had/have these abilities but I don’t know what to do with them. They scare me.”

The very best advice I can give you is very simple advice and that is “YOU ARE ALWAYS IN CONTROL.” Let me give you some examples of this:

1) You get premonitions of people dying or of terrible tragedies. Tell your guides and angels that you do not want to receive any information or have dreams like this unless you are able to DO something about it. You don’t have to actually know who your guides or angels are, but they are listening so just talk to them.
2) Your son or daughter is seeing spirits in his/her room or elsewhere and is frightened. He/She gets to tell them that they are NOT allowed to scare anyone and that if they are not of the Light, they are ordered to leave. Using sage or some other clearing tool helps with this. Be sure to get mirrors, doorways, and windows.
3) You are seeing or hearing spirits and it becomes overwhelming. Tell them to back off. Seriously, it works!
4) Your guides are trying to communicate with you and you are experiencing physical discomfort. (For me this was in my ears.) You get to remind them that you are an incarnate human and you do experience pain. They need to find some other way to communicate or tone it down, please. This can be helpful to do right before you go to sleep.

These are just a few examples of the many stories I have heard. The important thing is to remember that you are always in control of your gifts and abilities. They don’t control you, you control them. Just making this switch in mindset has brought huge changes for many of my clients. I hope it does for you as well.  As the image says, “Be open to whatever comes next” because you get to say what works for you and what doesn’t!

I’d love to hear your stories and if you have questions, be sure and ask!

Who are your spirit guides and how is it beneficial to know them?  Is it someone you know that you knew in this lifetime but now they have passed on? Do you have more than one? Are they always with you or do they come and go? Are there angels around you? I get asked these questions all the time in the readings I give to clients.

Your Spirit Guides are just as the name describes….your guides from the etherical world.  They are here to help and guide you and occasionally slap you up side the head if you’re not paying attention to their more gentle persuasions to lead you in the right direction.  So, who are they?  There is at minimum one around you and many times there are more, sometimes much more!  The one is your guide that has been with you since the time you chose to come into this lifetime and will remain with you until the time you choose to leave it.  This guide is not someone you have known in this lifetime, but rather another soul that is always with you, always available for insight and guidance.

Who are the others?  Well, the possibilities are nearly endless.  As a medium, I am often asked in readings if a loved one who has passed on is around and many times they are.  There may be more than one.  I generally pick up on the personalities of the person that has passed on enabling me to describe them to the person.  Often they will have a message to pass on or can answer questions when asked.  Other spirit guides may include but are not limited to angels, archangels, animal totems, Ascended Masters, those from ancient civilizations such as Atlantis, Egypt or Lemuria and star beings.

These additional guides may be present with you for long periods of time or they may just be around to deliver a short message.  They may be subtle in their messages or they may be very insistent.  You may sense they are there, you may hear them in your mind, or you might even see them.

They want to help but you have to ask for help.  It’s not enough to just to think in your mind, “Man, I wish this would happen.”  You have to specifically ask your guides to help you.  So, get busy asking for help with what you need!

How do they send messages to you?  You may get a message through something you read, a sentence or even a word you hear on the radio or TV.  It may be something someone says to you or it may be thoughts you have while washing the dishes or taking a shower.  These are the times your mind is more open.  If you are more open to your intuition and messages, the messages may come through a sensation in your body, through a “knowing” that they are in the room and you can communicate with them.  But keep in mind that you are always in control.  If they are being too pushy, you can tell them to “back off”.  For instance, there was a time that I was having sudden and sharp ear pressure.  It was obviously an attempt at communication but it was painful and I had to remind my guides that I am still living a human existence and they needed to back off a bit.

Your guides may also communicate with you in your dreams.  You may receive messages, “go to school”, or be shown events from the past or future. If you have trouble remembering your dreams, tell your guides before you go to bed that you want to remember and then keep a dream journal next to your bed.  As soon as you wake, or even in the middle of the night, write down your dreams.  As you record more and more, you will begin to see the pattern and the messages will become clearer.

How do you meet them?  The very best way to begin is through meditation.  Just quiet your mind and then ask to be shown who they are. Of course, I can also share with you who is around you at any given time in a reading.

Do you know who your spirit guides are?  How have they communicated with you?

What impact does the 2nd or Sacral Chakra have on your mind, body and spirit and how can you balance it if it becomes blocked?  The chakras are energy centers that feed into our aura.  If they are blocked, you may experience challenges with your physical, mental and spiritual bodies.  I go into further detail in the article I published about the root chakra.

The Sacral Chakra is located in the pelvic region.  As I mentioned in the root chakra article, each chakra has a color associated with it.  It is important to know this color as it helps to balance the chakra when it is blocked or out of balance.  The color associated with the sacral chakra is orange.  Since the chakras feed colors into the aura, if you see orange in someone’s aura, you know its source is the sacral chakra.

Here are the areas affected by the sacral chakra:

• Digestion
• Sexuality and sensuality
• Fertility
• Creative life energy and this includes but is not limited to sexual organs and the reproductive system, the kidneys and the bladder.
• This is also the link to your inner child—enthusiasm, happiness and joy.

If you are experiencing any challenges with these areas, your sacral chakra is out of balance or blocked.  In the energy healings I perform for others, I often see this chakra blocked with women who are experiencing hormonal imbalances, have experienced sexual abuse, or have had a miscarriage or abortion.  I’ve seen this area blocked in children and adults when they are having digestive problems and/or need to pay closer attention to their nutrition.  However, just as it suggests, if a person is struggling with creative life force or the child-like emotions of enthusiasm and joy, this area should be considered for balancing.

If you see yourself or someone you know that might be experiencing challenges in these areas, one or more of the following may be advantageous to help balance the chakra:

• Energy healing.  I say this, particularly with this chakra, because balancing it can be difficult.  Lots of emotion can be held there, especially if there has been sexual abuse or emotion around a miscarriage or abortion.  The digestive system is the seat of the immune system.  It may need the kickstart from energy to get it back on track.
• Using crystal healing stones such as carnelian or coral.  (think orange)  Crystals can be worn on the body in jewelry, dropped in a pocket or slipped into a bra.  Yes, a bra.  They can be slipped under the pillow while sleeping or used in meditation.
• Wear orange to energize the chakra.
• Use essential oils directly on the area.  Orange, tangerine and melissa are great options.

I’d love to hear how you have balanced your sacral chakra or what you need help with.

Approximately every two weeks, the moon becomes either a “new” moon or a full moon.  What does this mean for you and how can you take full advantage of these lunar cycles?

The new moon is the time when the moon is closest to Earth in the sky and can no longer be seen by those of us here on Earth.  This is by far the best time to set your intentions for what you want to manifest in your life.  It’s important to know the exact time that it becomes a new moon in your part of the world, as the best time for your new moon ritual is the 24 hours AFTER the moon officially becomes “new.”  Make a list of what you want to bring into your life and don’t put any limitations on it.  Dream BIG.  Very often you not only receive what you put on the list, you receive even more.   Once your list is together, perform some sort of ceremony that releases that list to the Universe/Your Higher Power.

Here are a couple of ideas, but it’s important to make your own ritual so that it’s meaningful for you.

• Put your list in a fire-proof bowl and burn it.  You can release the ashes in the wind or bury them in the ground.  Either way you are releasing your list to the Universe.
• Use a ceremonial drum to release each list item to the moon and the Universe.
• Place your list with some crystals, candles and/or other items that you associate with manifestation and release each list item.

If you haven’t burned your list to release it (or if you make a copy of it), keep your list in a journal, purse, pocket so you keep it in the front of your mind and consciousness.  This will help you to pay attention to it and notice when the signs are there that those list items are coming to fruition.

Another very fun part of the new moon is writing your New Moon Abundance Check.  This can be completed in addition to your manifestation list so definitely do both.  If you don’t use checks, just draw one out on a piece of paper.  I’ve written one out and included it here so that you can see how I complete mine.  Write what seems correct for you.  I like to leave the amount up to the Universe but if you really need a specific amount, then use it.  Post the check on your vision board or in a place that you can focus on it for the coming month.  Then replace it with the next month’s check or keep multiple ones if that seems right to you. In this check, I used the infinity symbol where you normally write numbers.  I like to dream big!

Now that you have that list of items you want to manifest, it is important to give them attention.  The very best opportunity to do that is on the full moon.  This is when you want to take ~action~ towards those items on your list.  It doesn’t have to be a big step, but a concerted step towards that goal.  For instance, maybe you want to start a new business.  In the 24 hours after the full moon, you might purchase the domain name for that business you intend to open.  It doesn’t have to be a big step (but it can be!), but taking some step is what is important.

Now, maybe you don’t take a step towards a list item on the full moon immediately following the new moon that you created the manifestation goal because the timing is not quite right.  When you ARE ready, be sure and do it on a full moon.

Also, on the full moon, be sure and put out your crystals for recharging.  This is one of the best times.  If it’s cold (or for any other reason) and you don’t want to haul your crystals outside, they can be put in a window sill that gets a lot of moon light.  But the best and first choice should always be outside in plenty of moonlight.

What if……?

You fill in the blank in the comments with whatever you need to encourage your heart and soul right this very moment.   You never know when what you say may encourage someone else and change their life for the better.  In ways you could never possibly imagine.  Start now.